MS and Grief vs. Depression

Grief over any kind of loss is a normal and healthy process. People with MS grieve over changes caused by the disease. The grieving process is the first step to learning how to adapt to those changes in one’s life and move forward. Given the many symptoms and changes that MS can cause, a person with MS can expect the normal grieving process to ebb and flow over time. People should not suppress their grief.

Grief can sometimes be difficult to distinguish from depression. However, they differ in several ways:

·      Grief over a recent change or loss is generally time-limited and resolves on its own. Clinical depression is more persistent and unremitting; with symptoms lasting at least two weeks and sometimes up to several months.

·     A person experiencing grief may at times be able to focus on life’s activities and gain enjoyment from them, while a person who is depressed may not.

·     Although grief generally resolves on its own without treatment, counseling, self-help groups, as well an understanding and supportive environment can help. Depression requires treatment by a mental health professional.

I cry (and sometimes sob) because MS is hard. I often take an internal look, though, to make sure I’m not depressed. While I’m not happy with my diagnosis, there are times I can step away from my MS and enjoy a conversation with friends, a good meal, a movie, or a good laugh. Grief is natural. It's part of being human. But take stock; don’t be ashamed to seek help when you’re overwhelmed. This shit is hard.